The loss of a loved one who remains very much alive and well, and happy without you, can feel worse than if that loved one died. Added to the toxic soup of the normal feelings of loss and grief, is the intense sense of worthlessness from being rejected for another, and the pain of helplessness from losing control over the relationship and having no say on who created when to end it.
It’s time for you to give yourself what I call a spiritual divorce. And, yes, it is a gift and a blessing. Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) can help you see it this way through your hopelessness and despair. I know what I’m talking about. I also went through the pain of a marriage that had stopped breathing a long time before it was officially pronounced dead.
EFT itself for me was the gift that kept on giving. I asked God for the way of healing for me from 12 years of what doctors told me was an incurable condition, and God led me to discover EFT within the week. This is why I can confidently tell you that EFT can help you too during your divorce or breakup, or during your troubled marriage for that matter, and also that separation in itself is the gift or way out of a relationship that, technically, has left you with nothing but an empty shell.
EFT can help you tap on that feeling of hopelessness, tap on that sense of helplessness, and give you control over when to end it. Tap. Sure, your loved one stopped loving you back. Affirm your acceptance and that you still love and respect yourself even so. Tap. This situation can also mean that you now have more love freed up to give yourself. One other thing I’ll tell you is that you can find love again with someone else and it might be better than you’ve ever imagined it could be. Trust me, I’ve been and am there.